**We recently mentioned on Facebook that we were looking for bloggers to guest post for us. We received many great posts. This is Jamie's post.**
"Jamie
is a cloth diapering, breastfeeding, kinda crunchy mother of five
children ranging in age from baby to teenager and lives in New York. She
started out her parenting journey, 15 years ago, as a very mainstream
Mama but with each child she has embraced a little more of the natural
side of living as well as the attached parenting styles because it's
what she feel comes naturally and is best for her family. She believes
in doing what's best for the children within a family unit even if it
isn't always easy but finds attached parenting helps her to meet her
children's needs as quickly and efficiently as possible while keeping
her sanity intact and building close familial bonds. She can be reached
at TheCrunchy5 {at} hotmail {dot} com"
I
have co-slept all my children to some extent over the years. With Noah
we did not even buy a crib because we planned for him to co-sleep from
day one. Noah typically wakes around three in the morning to nurse.
The
morning of January 23, when Noah was almost 3 1/2 months old, I had
woken up at 1 AM or so, saw that all was happy and well and went back to
sleep. Around 4 AM Noah woke up to nurse. I noticed that he sounded
very snotty so I grabbed a tissue and wiped his nose here and there
while he was nursing.
He finished nursing and we started settling back
down to sleep, with him in the crook of my arm as usual. He sneezed
twice and then I didn't hear his noisy breathing or feel him breathing. I
shook him a little bit, he seemed to gasp and then started with the
noisy breathing again right away. You don't want to think your baby
stopped breathing so my mind automatically thought that he was breathing
fine and just so peaceful that I didn't feel or hear it and he gasped
because I started him a little bit when I shook him. I started settling
back down, he sneezed twice again, and again the same thing-I didn't
hear or feel him breathing. I shook him gently again. He gasped again
and I started to hear him breathe and feel him move.
Once? Eh, weird
things happen, things get overlooked because you're tired, it's
dark...yada yada. Twice is more than coincidental!
I was up and out of
bed with Noah so fast making sure he was OK. I headed to the living room
so I could turn on the lights to see him better and watch him closely,
keep him inclined, take care of his nose, have the phone handy just in
case, and run through what I know about CPR for babies.
Noah
ended up waking up fully in all the commotion of getting out of bed and
into the light. He had good skin color, his breathing was regular, it
wasn't as labored as it seemed to be when we were nursing or settling
back down to sleep, and nothing else seemed abnormal. I ended up waking
Daddy up a couple minutes later because I wanted Daddy to hold him
upright and watch him while I got the stuff together to take care of his
nose goop. I told Daddy what happened so he watched him closely and
agreed with me that nothing concerning, aside from the goopy nose,
seemed to be going on. Noah was moving around as normal, smiling,
reacting and interacting with me, and bright eyed. I watched him, Daddy
went work and we called his Pediatrician to make an appointment.
I
took Noah in to see his pediatrician, Dr. S, the next morning. Dr. S.
spent about an hour in the room with us. I gave him all the details,
everything the way I noticed/perceived it in as much detail as possible.
Originally he said that babies change their breathing, IE they go from
breathing heavy and fast to light and slow, etc. I knew in my gut
that wasn't it and told him so. After a physical exam and a lot of
questions and discussion Dr. S. then determined that Noah was severely
congested in his nose. He also noticed that it sounded like Noah had
some gunk in his chest and an ear infection in his left ear. Based on
his exam, our discussion, and my review of the previous morning's events
what Dr. S. ascertained was that his nose was so congested (babies breathe through their nose) and that his mucus was so thick that it was such hard work to breathe through his that
Noah just...didn't breathe.
Dr. S. is very hesitant to say anything that is not solid and/or medically or scientifically backed. For him to say that Noah did stop breathing and why he thinks that happened-wow! I had so many feelings run through me from fear to relief to anger to feeling like a failure.
Noah just...didn't breathe.
Dr. S. is very hesitant to say anything that is not solid and/or medically or scientifically backed. For him to say that Noah did stop breathing and why he thinks that happened-wow! I had so many feelings run through me from fear to relief to anger to feeling like a failure.
Dr. S told me to keep doing what I'm doing as far as attached parenting and co-sleeping. I told him I was nervous about going to his office and telling them I co-sleep because of the increased negativity about co-sleeping in the last few months, including the infamous baby sleeping with knife anti-cosleeping AD.
He told me that while he can't recommend
it that we are probably the lowest risks with co-sleeping. Noah wasn't
premature, no smoking in the home, I don't drink and parent, etc. He
added that us co-sleeping, and "keeping him close to me" like with baby
wearing, especially when he was sick, was probably a good idea. "They" beat SIDS into your head, make you fearful of co-sleeping and a hundred other things but did you know that "SIDS
often occurs in association with relatively minor respiratory (mild
cold) and gastrointestinal infections (vomiting and diarrhea). " (Reducing
the Risk of SIDS, from the American SIDS Institute)? Neither did I
until I read it on the American SIDS Institute's website the morning
Noah stopped breathing.
Noah went on breathing treatments, an antibiotic for his ear infection, saline spray with a nasal aspirator, a cool mist humidifier, and various other home treatments (like Johnson's Vapor bath and Vapor Rub.). I think what threw me for a loop was that he didn't look sick. Yes, I knew he was congested and I knew he had green poop but darn, he was in good spirits, active, and nursing appropriately! He was much sicker than he was/is leading on.
I am so thankful for co-sleeping!
If I had not been co-sleeping who knows what would have happened. Maybe I would have walked him to another room, put him flat on his back in a crib, and left the room blissfully unaware that he was about to stop breathing. Maybe I would have left him in the crib, heard the first set of sneezes over the baby monitor and thought they were cute, then heard nothing else but figuring he was sleeping, not knowing SIDS often occurs with minor colds. As I sit here and type this Noah is snoozing quietly and peacefully, but if I hadn't been near him enough to know that something didn't seem right...
Noah went on breathing treatments, an antibiotic for his ear infection, saline spray with a nasal aspirator, a cool mist humidifier, and various other home treatments (like Johnson's Vapor bath and Vapor Rub.). I think what threw me for a loop was that he didn't look sick. Yes, I knew he was congested and I knew he had green poop but darn, he was in good spirits, active, and nursing appropriately! He was much sicker than he was/is leading on.
I am so thankful for co-sleeping!
If I had not been co-sleeping who knows what would have happened. Maybe I would have walked him to another room, put him flat on his back in a crib, and left the room blissfully unaware that he was about to stop breathing. Maybe I would have left him in the crib, heard the first set of sneezes over the baby monitor and thought they were cute, then heard nothing else but figuring he was sleeping, not knowing SIDS often occurs with minor colds. As I sit here and type this Noah is snoozing quietly and peacefully, but if I hadn't been near him enough to know that something didn't seem right...
I know EXACTLY what she went through only I had to breathe for my baby girl. Hugs to you and God Bless.
ReplyDeleteI too coslept with my baby, but {thankfully} never had anything like that!!
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your story. My would be older sister died of SIDS.
ReplyDeleteWow that's an amazing story
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you I full enjoy of this story
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Wow great post i like it very much thanks for share Parenting Tips
ReplyDeleteCo sleeping scared me when I was first a Mom because I was worried I was going to roll over and suffocated my baby. However, I co slept with my daughter and often my son when my husband was gone for training with the Marines. I feel like it gave us a closer connection and when they were sick I was able to monitor them better. Thank you for sharing your story. =) I'm so glad you're little boy is ok. God bless.
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I am Jamie from the post. Thank you for your comments. Out of my five at home I have never experienced anything like what happened with Noah that morning. There is no doubt in my mind that keeping our children close is how it's suppose to be for our benefit and theirs. AP is justa fancy name for simple, natural reactions and interactions with our children. I feel blessed to have all of my children, especially Noah, here with me every single day.
ReplyDeleteNoah was born completely healthy, no complications or health issues. We also selectively vaccinate and aside from the Hep B in the hospital he has not had any vaccines. He is exclusively breastfed, he has not had one bottle of anything, ever. We do not smoke (I've never smoked). I want everyone to know that there were not pre-existing conditions that put him at risk for SIDS.
Noah will be 6 months on the 17th and is a completely healthy, chunky, wiggly, giggly little monkey!
How scary! I have co slept with both my boys until about 6 months snd plan to with all my babies. I won't sleep if I can't hear them breathing!
ReplyDeleteWow. How scary that must have been for you. Good for you for listening to your gut and not brushing it off.
ReplyDeleteThat is amazing, touches my heart since I too have a baby Noah. So glad everything worked out!
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing; these kinds of stories give me chills. So thankful everything is alright with Noah.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for sharing your story. I too had no idea that a child being sick could increase their risk of SIDS. Makes me look at co-sleeping, or at least occasional co-sleeping, in a new light.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your story. I did co-sleep with my little one for his first two months. Now he is in his crib next to the bed. I just feel better when he is closed by.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing! I also have Co-slept with my three kids. It is encouraging to know that others out there do it.
ReplyDeleteGreat information about Co-sleeping! Thank you for the story!
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